DAMAGED EMOTIONS are emotional feelings, responses and perspective that are the product of wounds and injuries that have been done to our inner life.
Common Sources of Wounds and Trauma
- Rejection - Bereavement
- Parental Tyranny - Physical / sexual abuse
- Parental Indifference
SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF A DAMAGED HEART:
- Defecting Self -image - Dysfunctional relationships
- Protecting myself - Hard to forgive
- Deep sadness - Repetitive patterns of defeat
- Defensiveness - Hard to feel loved
- Easily Offended or Frustrated - Lashing out
- Agreeing with Lies - Feelings of anger towards God
- Inner rawness - Self-hate
- Irritability - Escapism
- Little or no tolerance - Retaliation urges
- Feelings always rising up - Irresponsible behavior
- Overly sensitive about an event in your past
- Hypersensitivity - Irrational expectations of others
- Fear of failure - Perfectionism:
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD
- Self-resentment - Self-unforgiveness
HURT LEADERS EXHIBIT THESE SYMPTOMS:
- Lack of Love for People • Fear of Failure
- Inappropriate guilt • Driven to Perform
- Loss of joy in the ministry
Are you a VICTIM or VICTOR?
THE VICTIM (Psalms 10:14)
The VICTIM mentality rest on 3 key beliefs:
- Bad things happen and will keep on happening
- Other people or circumstances are to blame
- Any efforts to change will fail, so there’s no point in trying
THE VICTOR - A VICTOR is one person who has defeated an opponent. A victor is a winner in a fight! (Psalm 34:18; Psalm 147:3; Isaiah 61:1; Psalm 51:17)
FROM VICTIM TO VICTOR
Practical ways to overcome the reality of failure, injustice & adversity in your past & present life (Read 2 Sam 12:15-23)
3 keys to healing from trauma, abused & damaged emotions
1.) THE “YOU” FACTOR - ADMIT THE PAIN AND DAMAGED. TAKE INITIATIVE. DECIDE. MOVE ON
2.) THE “GOD” FACTOR - The presence of God is the place of your healing.
3.) THE “FORGIVENESS” FACTOR (Ephesians 4:31-32)
A VICTIM OR A VICTOR – THE CHOICE IS YOURS!!!